Suara.com – Parents' permission is important when someone is getting married. However, it turns out that not all couples can get their parents' blessing. So, is it legal to marry without parental consent in Islam, considering that for women, the father is supposed to be the guardian of the marriage?
It turns out, in Islam, as long as the conditions and pillars of marriage are met, there is no problem getting married even without the blessing of parents. If a woman does not have her father's blessing, the guardian can be replaced by another person who becomes the judge's guardian.
“If we talk about halal marriage, it's easy. Even if he doesn't use a guardian, it turns out that he can get married without having to marry. For example, there is a woman whose guardian doesn't want to. “Going to a place more than 84 km away, getting married there with a guardian judge, it's legal even if the father is there,” said Buya Yahya in a video uploaded to the Al-Bahjah TV YouTube channel, four years ago.
However, even though it is religiously legal, according to Buya Yahya, marrying without parental approval is still not good in terms of manners and ethics. The reason is, getting married if you only look at the terms and conditions is an easy thing. However, there are other things that are also important to obtain, namely the blessings and prayers of parents
“Getting legally married according to jurisprudence is very easy, but we are not only dealing with jurisprudence, but there are manners, morals and blessings. “What's more important than that, parents' blessings and prayers, parents' blessings,” he continued.
Therefore, couples still have to get their parents' approval first. Even though marriage is considered legally valid without parents' blessings, good relations must still be maintained. This will give blessings from parents both in this world and the hereafter.
“Getting the approval of parents is important for life in this world and the afterlife. “If the issue is legal, it is legal if it fulfills the requirements (of marriage), as long as the harmony is fulfilled and the conditions are valid,” he concluded.